Happy New Year! 2018 was ushered in as we said goodbye to 2017. Unfortunately, as I look back in The 6th Floor archives, I failed to post my 2017 resolutions last year, first time since 2011. As for 2017, I am glad it’s over, as it was a very challenging and busy year, both personally and professionally. Thankfully, a new year is like a clean canvas reading to receive each brush stroke that will make up your masterpiece. Here’s what I expect in my 2018 “masterpiece.”
This year, I have changed my approach to the year, as I desire to focus on a keyword for the the next 365 days. I’ve sent resolutions in the past, but as with most, they slowly fade away. While exercise and weight loss, usually top the charts, this year I wanted something different and feel this approach runs deeper and will have more impact in my life and those around me. That word is “selfless.”
concerned more with the needs and wishes of others than with one’s own; unselfish.
“an act of selfless devotion”
synonyms: unselfish, altruistic, self-sacrificing, self-denying;
This word is a perfect fit for how I want to start the year off. While I do volunteer much of my time, for PTA and scouting, there seemed to be a disconnect in the time spent concerned with my wife and son. The two most important people in my life I call family.
While perusing Facebook or Twitter, I ran across a video from Japan about being selfless. I watched it twice and the message, an important one, seemed to provide a strong message that had me thinking about the sort of man I had been, from husband to father, friend to co-worker.
As I mentioned in 2016, I have much to work on to be a better man. I have done things in the past that have called into question being truthfully and trustworthy. No worse feeling knowing you can’t be relied upon as a friend. Seeing this as unacceptable, it was time to look back in order to improve moving forward.
While 2017 was a step in the right direction, 2018 needs to see notable changes. Even at 48 years old, there is room for improvement in order to be the sort man I should have been years ago. It’s more than just volunteering my time, it’s about making a conscious change and seeing those improvements in every facet of life.
We have all heard the adage, “actions speak louder than words.” This rings true in the act of being selfless as applied in daily life. “People say things and make promises they have no intention of keeping on a daily basis…Words are cheap…until they are acted upon.” An article found at Elite Daily seemed to echo many of the characteristics I need to practice more as we start the new year.
One of those “actions,” not following through with a task I promised to accomplish. It can be something as simple as forgetting to pick up something at the store or not communicating with my wife on an upcoming event.” While these seemingly harmless events have bearing, especially the more I forgot to follow through something that would benefit someone else.
“At the end of the day, whatever your actions may be will show what you are trying to prove. If you are simply talking, nothing is happening, but when actions take place, you are actually engaging in this behavior. Actions prove who someone really is while words only show what someone wants to be.”
This quote sums things up nicely and when successful will help lead me to be more selfless, thinking about others in my life. Today hopefully starts that journey and will hopefully allow me to reflect and grow over the course of the year. American writer, poet, philospher, Suzy Kaseem has three valuable words to make me the individual I want to be.